You deserve better, today

 

(image: 2025, “mariarsaghbini”, Pinterest. https://www.pinterest.com/pin/1100919071875330017/.)

You deserve better, today

By: Julia Murray

August 30, 2024

Dear reader,

There is a chance after reading this blog, you will call it cute. However, the art of protecting your energy, knowing your worth, and treating yourself as your best friend are things I wish I fully understood earlier in life.

“My tongue is sacred, I speak upon what I like.

Protected, sexy, discerning with my time, (my time).

Your energy is yours and mine is mine.

What's mine is mine.”

(Grande, Ariana. “Yes, And?”, Eternal Sunshine. 2024.)

Social media has convinced everyone it is normal to know what’s happening in everyone’s lives. In reality, it will not make any difference in our lives to not know what our ex-best friend did on Halloween night. Long story…moving on. In reverse, not everyone needs to know what you’re up to. You have the right to privacy and who you share things with. Privacy is a luxury. Do those likes and comments make your matcha latte taste even better than before?  

The attention or lack of attention you receive online is not a reflection of your worthiness. It’s the same with grades by the way… You are worthy just as you are. Those 100 likes will not mean anything to you when your date to prom ghosted you. Unfortunately, I know from experience.

 

It may come as a shock to you that I am grateful my prom date ghosted me. People who do not see what I bring to the table are people I do not care to be in my circle. I have amazing people in my life who are genuine and kindhearted… I do not plan on settling for less. 

If someone is weighing you down, cut them off. Consider this your permission to unfollow them, block them, and/or delete their contact. We do not have power to control a lot of things but you can take control of your digital space. If your heart feels heavy whenever you see someone’s name and your gut tells you that they have no intention of reaching out there’s no reason for you to see their name. A relationship is a flower, a flower needs sunlight and water. If you made multiple attempts to provide the sunlight and the flower appears to be fading from too much sun and no water… stop wasting your time. My hot take is that sometimes it’s okay to ghost. If they disrespected you and you do not have to speak with them daily, weekly, or on holiday, ghost them.  

Lastly, you always deserve to speak kindly to yourself. You spend every single second of your life with yourself. The way you treat yourself is a reflection of how you allow others to treat you. 

Personally, I can be so incredibly mean to myself. After someone has been mean to me I would do them a favor and finish off the job in my head. I notice that when I’m mean to myself I would never dream to utter those comments to the ones I cherish so dearly. Being kind to yourself is a practice you must do everyday. It will take a while until it’s no longer a practice and it comes naturally. True validation comes from ourselves not others. You deserve to give yourself  the love you deserve. A love interest or a friend group is not the answer. Loving yourself, treating yourself with kindness, compassion, and grace needs to come first.

Yours Truly, Julia

© 2025 Yours Truly, Julia. All Rights Reserved to author Julia Murray.